The Intimacy Challenge

Wendy and I have been working hard on a practical tool to help you rebuild intimacy in your relationship. We believe the first step in a better sex life is a great connection with your partner. If you don’t feel close, then great sex will never come.

The wonderful thing about this challenge is even if you have done some of these before, it allows you to begin again and refresh your intimacy with your partner. This challenge grew out of the things Wendy and I do for each other to stay connected.

How the Challenge Works

30 Day Challenge

30 day intimacy challenge

7 Day Challenge

7 day intimacy challenge

Weekly Random

random intimacy challenge

You can play the game in three ways. Choose the one that works best for you, your lifestyle, and your schedule.

Download The PDF

Click here to download the full list of Challenges checklist as a PDF. You can print this list and check off your challenges in one convenient location.

30 Day Challenge

The first option and the most challenging. See how many of these you can complete in 30 days. While it is a challenge, it is important to prioritize quality over quantity. Each challenge is designed to be completed in one evening but some might take some planning as well so keep that in mind.

7 Day Challenge

The 7 Day Challenge is just like the 30 day except, as you probably guessed, You have 7 days. This will feel a bit more challenges due to the shorter timeframe so choose your challenges carefully. Remember, you can do any of these challenges multiple times. Any number of challenges completed is a win!!!!

Random Weekly Challenge

For this challenge, choose a set number of challenges. You can write them on sticky notes or pieces of paper and put them in a bowl. Pull one challenge from the bowl each week and complete it within that week.

Keeping Score

No matter how many you have completed, comment on this post and let us know how many you created and how it affected your relationship. Maybe even list the challenges you completed if you feel comfortable.

The Challenges

1. Romantic Picnic In The Park

Pack a basket with your favorite foods and enjoy a picnic under the stars.

2. DIY Couples Paint Night

Set up a canvas and paints at home and create artwork, expressing your love and creativity.

3. Bubble Bath For Two

Fill up the bathtub with bubbles, light candles, and enjoy a relaxing bath together.

Movie Marathon

Have a movie night at home, cuddled up on the couch with your favorite films and snacks.

Cooking Class at Home

Choose a new recipe to try together and have fun cooking a delicious meal as a team.

Sexy Dessert Tasting

Blindfold each other and feed each other different desserts, focusing on sensual tastes and textures.

Bedroom Dance Party

Create a playlist of your favorite songs and dance together in the bedroom, letting loose and having fun.

DIY Spa Night

Transform your home into a spa with homemade face masks, massages, and pampering treatments.

Love Letter Exchange

Take some time to write heartfelt letters to each other, expressing your love, appreciation, and desires.

Stargazing Adventure

Find a cozy spot outdoors away from city lights and spend the evening stargazing together.

Cocktail Making Contest

Challenge each other to create unique cocktails using ingredients you have at home and then enjoy tasting each other’s creations.

Memory Lane Walk

Take a walk down memory lane by looking through old photos or watching home videos together, reminiscing about your favorite moments as a couple.

DIY Indoor Camping

Set up a blanket fort in your living room, complete with fairy lights and snacks, and spend the evening camping indoors together.

Board Game Battle

Have a board game night and compete against each other in your favorite games, adding a fun and competitive edge to your evening.

Midnight Snack Adventure

Go on a late-night adventure to your favorite 24-hour diner or food truck for a spontaneous and delicious snack.

DIY Karaoke Night

Sing your hearts out with a karaoke session at home, performing duets and cheesy love songs together.

Sensual Massage Exchange

Take turns giving each other sensual massages with scented oils, focusing on relaxation and intimacy.

Spontaneous Road Trip

Pack a bag and hit the road for a spontaneous adventure, exploring new places and creating memories together.

Create a Vision Board

Spend the evening creating a vision board together, visualizing your goals and dreams as a couple.

Secret Ingredient Cooking Challenge

Choose a secret ingredient and challenge each other to come up with unique dishes using that ingredient, then enjoy a delicious dinner together.

Watch the Sunset

Find a beautiful spot to watch the sunset together, enjoying each other’s company and the beauty of nature.

Fondue Night

Set up a fondue station at home with cheese or chocolate fondue and a variety of dippable treats for a cozy and romantic evening.

Couples Yoga Session

Follow along with a couples yoga routine to stretch, relax, and connect with each other both physically and emotionally.

Scented Candle Making

Get creative and make your own scented candles together, customizing the scents to evoke romance and intimacy.

DIY Wine Tasting

Pick up a few different bottles of wine and have your own wine tasting at home, trying out different varieties and discussing your favorites.

Paint and Sip Night

Set up an easel, canvas, and paints at home, then sip on your favorite drinks while you paint together.

Midnight Picnic in the Backyard

Spread out a blanket in the backyard and enjoy a romantic picnic under the moonlight.

DIY Movie Theater Night

Turn your living room into a cozy movie theater with blankets, popcorn, and your favorite films playing on the big screen.

Starlit Dance Party

Dance together under the stars in your backyard, creating your own magical moment.

Indoor Picnic by Candlelight

Set up a picnic indoors with candles, fairy lights, and your favorite finger foods for a romantic evening at home.

Sunrise Breakfast Date

Wake up early to watch the sunrise together, then enjoy a cozy breakfast in bed.

DIY Ice Cream Sundae Bar

Set up a DIY ice cream sundae bar at home with various toppings and create delicious sundaes together.

Outdoor Movie Night

Set up a projector in your backyard or balcony and have a romantic movie night under the stars.

DIY Couples Spa Night

Create a spa atmosphere at home with facials, foot massages, and relaxing baths.

Scenic Drive with Playlist

Take a scenic drive together with a specially curated playlist, enjoying each other’s company and the beautiful views.

Bookstore Adventure

Spend the evening browsing a bookstore together, picking out books for each other and sharing your favorite reads.

Plant a Garden Together

Spend an evening planting flowers or herbs together in your garden or on your balcony.

Create a Time Capsule

Put together a time capsule with mementos and memories of your relationship, then bury it in a special spot to dig up in the future.

DIY Wine and Paint Night

Set up a wine and paint night at home, following along with a painting tutorial while enjoying a glass of wine.

Write and Burn Worries

Write down any worries or stresses you have, then burn the papers together as a symbolic release.

Photography Adventure

Take a walk together with a camera and capture special moments and beautiful sights in your neighborhood.

Candlelit Dinner at Home

Prepare a romantic candlelit dinner at home, complete with your favorite dishes and drinks.

DIY Sushi Night

Roll your own sushi at home and enjoy a fun and delicious dinner together.

Create a Couple’s Playlist

Compile a playlist of songs that remind you of each other and your relationship, then listen to it together and reminisce.

DIY Indoor Picnic

Spread out a blanket on the living room floor and have an indoor picnic with sandwiches, snacks, and wine.

Learn a New Dance Together

Watch online dance tutorials and learn a new dance together, laughing and having fun as you practice.

Create a Memory Jar

Write down favorite memories and moments on slips of paper and put them in a jar to revisit together in the future.

DIY Chocolate Tasting

Buy a variety of chocolates and have a chocolate tasting night, savoring the different flavors and textures.

DIY Home Improvement Project

Pick a small home improvement project to work on together, such as painting a room or building a piece of furniture.

Create a Vision Board for Your Relationship

Visualize your dreams and goals as a couple by creating a vision board together.

DIY Cocktail Making Night

Experiment with making your own cocktails at home, trying out different recipes and flavors.

Create a Couples Bucket List

Write down activities and experiences you want to do together and create a bucket list to tackle them.

DIY Fondue Night

Set up a fondue station at home with cheese or chocolate fondue and a variety of dippable treats.

Write and Exchange Love Letters

Take the time to write heartfelt love letters to each other, expressing your feelings and appreciation.

DIY Puzzle Night

Work on a jigsaw puzzle together, enjoying each other’s company and the satisfaction of completing the puzzle.

Create Your Own Wine Labels

Design and print custom labels for bottles of wine, adding a personal touch to your favorite drinks.

DIY Game Night

Create your own board game or card game together and enjoy playing it with each other.

Plan Your Dream Vacation

Spend the evening researching and planning your dream vacation together, discussing destinations and activities.

DIY Chocolate Truffle Making

Make your own chocolate truffles at home and enjoy indulging in your delicious creations.

Create a Scrapbook of Your Relationship

Gather photos and mementos of your relationship and create a scrapbook to document your journey together.

DIY Candle Making

Spend an evening making your own candles together, experimenting with scents and colors.

Create a Couples Playlist

Compile a playlist of songs that hold special meaning for your relationship and dance together to the music.

DIY Chocolate Fondue Night

Set up a chocolate fondue station at home with a variety of fruits, marshmallows, and other dippable treats.

Create a Vision Board for Your Future

Visualize your dreams and goals as a couple by creating a vision board together, including aspirations for your relationship and individual aspirations.

Memory Lane Drive

Take a drive together to places that hold special memories for your relationship, reminiscing about your journey as a couple.

DIY Game Night

Create your own board game or card game together, incorporating inside jokes and shared experiences.

Spa Night with Homemade Face Masks

Treat yourselves to a spa night at home with homemade face masks, cucumbers for the eyes, and relaxing music.

Create Your Own Signature Cocktail

Experiment with different ingredients to create your own signature cocktail together, then toast to your creation.

Plan a Surprise Date Nigh

Take turns planning surprise date nights for each other, keeping the plans a secret until the last minute.

Create a Couple’s Bucket List

Write down activities and experiences you want to do together and create a bucket list to accomplish them.

DIY Pizza Night

Make homemade pizzas together, experimenting with different toppings and sauces.

Karaoke Night at Home

Sing your hearts out with a karaoke session at home, performing duets and serenading each other.

DIY Chocolate Making

Learn how to make your own chocolate candies at home, molding and decorating them together.

Create Your Own Love Language

Come up with your own unique love language or secret code words that only the two of you understand.

DIY Photo Booth

Set up a DIY photo booth at home with props and costumes, then have fun taking silly and romantic photos together.

Write and Exchange Love Poems

Take the time to write romantic poetry for each other and exchange your heartfelt verses.

Plan a Romantic Candlelit Dinner

Prepare a romantic candlelit dinner at home with your partner’s favorite dishes and wines.

DIY Wine and Cheese Tasting

Buy a selection of wines and cheeses and have your own wine and cheese tasting night at home.

Create a Memory Jar

Write down your favorite memories and moments together on slips of paper and put them in a jar to revisit whenever you need a reminder of your love.

DIY Outdoor Movie Night

Set up a projector in your backyard and have a cozy outdoor movie night under the stars.

Cooking Class at Home

Choose a cuisine you’ve always wanted to try and take a cooking class together at home, following along with online tutorials.

Create a Relationship Timeline

Create a timeline of your relationship, including milestones, special moments, and shared memories.

DIY Breakfast in Bed

Surprise your partner with a homemade breakfast in bed, complete with their favorite foods and drinks.

DIY Sushi Making Night

Roll your own sushi at home together, experimenting with different ingredients and techniques.

Plan a Weekend Getaway

Research and plan a spontaneous weekend getaway to a nearby destination, exploring new places and creating memories together.

DIY Chocolate Covered Strawberries

Make chocolate-covered strawberries together, dipping and decorating them with various toppings.

Create Your Own Couples’ Game Night

Invent your own couples’ game night with trivia, challenges, and prizes for the winner.

DIY Bath Bombs

Spend an evening making your own bath bombs together, choosing scents and shapes to personalize your creations.

Plan Your Dream Home

Spend the evening planning and designing your dream home together, discussing layouts, decor, and features.

DIY Book Club

Choose a book to read together and have your own private book club discussion, sharing your thoughts and insights.

DIY Chocolate Truffle Making

Make homemade chocolate truffles together, experimenting with different flavors and coatings.

Create Your Own Love Coupons

Design and create personalized love coupons for each other, redeemable for romantic gestures and favors.

DIY Ice Cream Making

Make your own ice cream at home together, experimenting with flavors and mix-ins.

Create a Couples’ Playlist

Compile a playlist of songs that remind you of each other and your relationship, then listen to it together and reminisce.

DIY Outdoor Picnic

Pack a picnic basket with your favorite foods and head to a nearby park for a romantic outdoor picnic.

Create Your Own Signature Scent

Experiment with essential oils to create your own signature scent together, blending different fragrances until you find the perfect combination.

Plan Your Dream Wedding

Spend the evening planning and designing your dream wedding together, discussing themes, venues, and details.

DIY Wine and Paint Night

Set up a wine and paint night at home, following along with a painting tutorial while enjoying a glass of wine.

Create a Couples’ Time Capsule

Gather mementos and keepsakes from your relationship and bury them in a time capsule to open together in the future.

DIY Movie Marathon

Have a movie marathon at home, cuddled up on the couch with your favorite films and snacks.

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