How Much Sex Is Normal After 50?

How Much Sex is Normal After 50?

How much sex is normal after 50?  Now, that is a great and very common question.

What do the Stats say?

First the academic answer, then the one that matters.

Sex Frequency By age. How much sex is normal after 50
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Researchers have found that sexual frequency peaks in the 25-34 age group, and frequency declines as we age.   By the time a person is in their late 50s, they may only have sex an average of 1 to 2 times a month.   

But those are just statistics; do they mean anything to you?

What Is Normal Anyway?

What is normal?

In short,  ‘normal’ is what we want it to be.    The stats say something about the general population, but what is normal for you may not be normal for someone else.  

I do not believe this is the right question.

I think the real question here is this

Are you and your partner happy with your sex life?  

Sex, for us, is about intimacy and connection, and it takes many forms.  While it usually ends in orgasm,  we focus more on our connection.  

The goal is achieved if we both feel connected and closer at the end of an encounter.  

Go, team 🙂

If you or your partner are not satisfied,  ask yourself.

Is it the right amount, frequency, and duration?

Does your sex life contain enough variety? 

Do you and your partner find it satisfying?

What is normal?  You have to define your own ‘normal.’

Defining Normal

defining normal

Are you and your partner satisfied with the frequency, quality, duration, and variety of your sex life?   Often, one or both partners will say no.

If not, How the hell do you fix it? Follow a few simple steps to find a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

Is It Often Enough?

How often do you and your partner want to have sex? This answer may be different for each of you. It’s essential to be open and honest.

When Wendy and I got together, we had sex three to four times a week. Now, we are around two to three times a week. 

Also, we found that we enjoyed the mornings the most. That means don’t call us Saturday morning…just saying.  🙂 

Is this normal? Who cares. How much sex is normal after 50 is yours to define.

We find that if we go more than four days without intimacy, we start to feel it. So, the answer for us is at least every four days.   

Additionally, It’s important to note that quantity is most likely not the problem.  

Maybe the quantity of sex in your life has decreased, but the quality has improved. Quantity also ebbs and flows as life challenges, family issues, and other priorities arise.  

It is important to look back and identify when the change happened. When did your sex life slow down?   What was happening in your life, and how can you take action to get back to a happy balance?

Is There Enough Variety?

Are you both happy with the variety of your sex life, or has it become boring and repetitive?    

Try introducing something new. A change as simple as a different location can be inspiring.   

Make an encounter romantic, playful, or dirty and sexy.  

Maybe consider a new toy or three. This is undoubtedly one of our favorites.

Is there Enough Emotional Intimacy

Sometimes, problems in the bedroom are just symptoms of issues outside the bedroom.  

Exploring avenues beyond the confines of the bedroom can catalyze reigniting the passionate flame within the bedroom’s intimate confines. 

Emotional intimacy, a cornerstone of any meaningful relationship, is a profound sense of assurance and trust that fosters the freedom to divulge deep emotions. 

Preserving a relationship is undeniably more straightforward than the arduous task of rebuilding it from the ground up.

Are Your Desire Levels In Balance?

It’s not uncommon for one person to have a stronger desire for physical affection, like hugging and kissing, than another. 

This happens to many people, and it’s perfectly okay. 

However, suppose one person constantly wants affection, and the other isn’t interested. In that case, it can become an ongoing issue, similar to a recurring problem at work or in life.

But here’s the important part: this doesn’t mean the end of affection in your relationship. 

You and your partner can discuss your feelings and try to find a balance that works for both of you. 

My partner and I sometimes face a similar situation: I enjoy physical affection more, while my partner might not be as enthusiastic, but we talk it through and find a solution that suits us both.

The Real Answer

Defining Normal

There is no universal answer to how much sex is normal after 50. 

What matters most is whether you and your partner are happy with your sex life and open to discussing and addressing any issues. 

It’s about finding what works best for your unique relationship to ensure a satisfying and fulfilling romantic life.

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